I think that children blur people's minds!
A friend of mine, who I haven't talked with since about January or so (moving around and everything, being busy, all of that), just logged on to his MSN and has a photo of him with a baby.
I asked him if it was his, and he said yes. It's about four months old or something like that (and I didn't even know his gf was pregnant, altho I'd never met her), and now he and the girl are getting engaged.
The weird thing is that when we used to be in contact, he would always complain about the lady he was dating, talk about breaking up with her and all of that sort of rubbish. And now they're getting engaged? o.0
I mean, does having a small humanoid thing suddenly make things change around totally or something like that? Like someone came and took away the old brain this guy had and squashed it with a hammer before replacing it with something else entirely?
Meh... weird.
And the same thing happened with one of my old friends back in NSW who stayed with his dopefiend gf due to having a kid with her, but they both hate each other.
Not that I think kids should be deprived of their parents, but if you're going to make the others miserable by staying together, that has some sort of effect on the child who's also a part of the equation. Hmm.
4 comments:
Does having a small humanoid make things change around totally? Oh yes... As to whether those couples should be together who could say? Perhaps a judge or jounalist or politician. They know everything. Large Louie
I'm curious ~ how does having a child change things?
Is it that having a child with someone means that you should stay with them if you were going to leave before it came along? Or does the presence of a child suddenly repair everything in the relationship that was wrong and destructive between the two individuals previously in it? Does it heal rifts or deepen them?
I don't know.
There's no blanket thing to cover it. Everyone is different, everyone has different relationships, everyone has to make their own decisions about what they do. It's a big responsibilty as well ~ not only considering one's own life, but also that of a small child and what impact relationships will have on them in the future.
It definitely can change the dynamics of a marriage for better or worse (to use a phrase). I think it makes some marriages more tolerable because they love the children more than their mate or it gives the couple something more to share or with which to cooperate. I don't think it is always a bad thing when couples 'stay together for the kids'... Nowdays I think many people have very short attention spans and weak levels of commitment. If you're bored maybe you get a divorce. If a divorce isn't a wake up call maybe a child is. Agreed though, there is not a shortage of bad environments for raising children. Large Louie
Mmm, perhaps you're right that having kids has the potential to be good for relationships by making people work together for a common goal.
But I agree that people seem to have short attention spans when it comes to relationships. It's sort of like, "Well, that marriage didn't work out, so I think I'll get a divorce when I pop down to the shops to get some milk and today's newspaper."
Maybe not that extreme ;) *lol* But yeah, it's kind of like rather than making an effort to change things and make an improvement to the relationship, the divorce card is the one that's played first, rather than being one of the later options.
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